Recently a key part of our door knob fell to pieces. Christine gathered up the pieces and placed them on the counter in case I could repair the knob. But before I got the chance, Lizzy found the pieces and--noticing the air vent holes in the front of the dishwasher--decided to send them on a trip.
So tonight I was kneeling next to the dishwasher with a screwdriver in hand when Lizzy came from her room and asked what I was doing.
"I'm taking apart the dishwasher to get the spring out that you put in there," I said with as much appropriate sternness as I could muster. And then in a burst of inspiration, I added, "And the next time you put something in the dishwasher, you're going to be the one taking apart the dishwasher to get the thing out."
Feeling I had just come up with a clever consequence that would act as an effective deterrent, I went smugly back to spinning my screwdriver and extracting screws. Behind me, a small voice, however, responded to my pronouncement with a surprising declaration: "Cool."
"Cool?" I questioned. "Cool that I'm taking apart the dishwasher?"
"Cool that I could be the one to take it apart next time."
Um, ok. Maybe that wasn't the best consequence. Scratch that. No taking apart of dishwashers by 7-year-olds allowed.
Gotta think through these things better.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Thursday, October 09, 2008
Back Yard Therapy
So after a frustrating day at work, I was mowing my lawn at home as the sun went down last night. Lizzy, my 7 year old, was out on the patio eating M&Ms and watching me. Soon she moved to the swingset. Back and forth and back and forth she went, while I went back and forth and back and forth over the much-too-long lawn. As I went, I thought of clever or childish or vengeful or straightforward ways to communicate my work frustration to my supervisors (all the while knowing none of those expressions would ever be shared). Camel backs and straws, pay commensurate with headaches--that sort of thing.
I mowed over a part of a zucchini plant that was in my way. I don't like zucchini anyway. Then there were a couple branches of raspberry bushes. They were sticking out into the grass where they shouldn't have been. I got out the weed killer and started spraying unwelcome growth in the lawn and in border areas. Lizzy, still swinging, asked, "Why are you killing the weeds? Why don't you find somewhere that they like weeds and pick our weeds out of the ground and take them to that place?"
This is our little environmentalist. When we found termites in our house she was dismayed to learn of our plans to kill them. Instead, she thought we should make a wood pile somewhere outside and encourage the termites to go eat the wood pile instead of our house. They're part of creation, after all, and they just need something to eat. Poor little termites. We joked about making a little sign that said, "Wood pile, this way." We killed them anyway. Some guys came and drilled holes in our concrete and pumped all sorts of poison into the ground. Three times.
Anyway, as I'm spraying weeds, Lizzy says, "Wanna come swing with me?" So I finish my spraying, put the sprayer on the patio, and go sit on the hard plastic swings that are too narrow for adult hind ends. And we swing. The light is receding from the sky overhead. The colors turning to deeper shades of blue, a nice gradation from light blue in the west to deep blue over head. The mountains to the east are getting darker.
Lizzy is singing, "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." (Really--those are the words she was singing.) And she says, "Want to sing this with me? You sing three blah blahs and then you say names of things that are kind of similar. Like this: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Mountains, clouds, trees, grass. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Stars, moon, planets, sun."
So I join in and we're singing the blah blah song as we swing on ever-more-painful swings. I switch to the two-person glider swing, which is more comfortable. Lizzy changes the song. "So after you say the names of things, then you say what category they are in. Like this: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Mountains, clouds, trees: Nature." And on we go, each singing our own version of the blah blah song. I come up with categories like "space" and "things in our yard" and "parts of our house."
Since I'm thinking of my own words and categories, I'm only half-listening, at best, to Lizzy's words. So I don't notice when she sings "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Sun, lightbulb, furnace, fire..." But I do notice that there is a long pause. She stopped after that list of related items, unsure what to call the list.
After my song continues solo for some time, she finally names her category: "Sources of heat and energy," she intones in her little 7-year-old voice. And I bust up. And she laughs. And there we are laughing and swinging under a dark-blue gradient sky, and I look up and see one bright, clear, bluish star--a planet, I think--right overhead. And we swing and sing blah blahs into the night. And never once do I include "frustrating job" in my categories.
I mowed over a part of a zucchini plant that was in my way. I don't like zucchini anyway. Then there were a couple branches of raspberry bushes. They were sticking out into the grass where they shouldn't have been. I got out the weed killer and started spraying unwelcome growth in the lawn and in border areas. Lizzy, still swinging, asked, "Why are you killing the weeds? Why don't you find somewhere that they like weeds and pick our weeds out of the ground and take them to that place?"
This is our little environmentalist. When we found termites in our house she was dismayed to learn of our plans to kill them. Instead, she thought we should make a wood pile somewhere outside and encourage the termites to go eat the wood pile instead of our house. They're part of creation, after all, and they just need something to eat. Poor little termites. We joked about making a little sign that said, "Wood pile, this way." We killed them anyway. Some guys came and drilled holes in our concrete and pumped all sorts of poison into the ground. Three times.
Anyway, as I'm spraying weeds, Lizzy says, "Wanna come swing with me?" So I finish my spraying, put the sprayer on the patio, and go sit on the hard plastic swings that are too narrow for adult hind ends. And we swing. The light is receding from the sky overhead. The colors turning to deeper shades of blue, a nice gradation from light blue in the west to deep blue over head. The mountains to the east are getting darker.Lizzy is singing, "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." (Really--those are the words she was singing.) And she says, "Want to sing this with me? You sing three blah blahs and then you say names of things that are kind of similar. Like this: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Mountains, clouds, trees, grass. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Stars, moon, planets, sun."
So I join in and we're singing the blah blah song as we swing on ever-more-painful swings. I switch to the two-person glider swing, which is more comfortable. Lizzy changes the song. "So after you say the names of things, then you say what category they are in. Like this: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Mountains, clouds, trees: Nature." And on we go, each singing our own version of the blah blah song. I come up with categories like "space" and "things in our yard" and "parts of our house."
Since I'm thinking of my own words and categories, I'm only half-listening, at best, to Lizzy's words. So I don't notice when she sings "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Sun, lightbulb, furnace, fire..." But I do notice that there is a long pause. She stopped after that list of related items, unsure what to call the list.
After my song continues solo for some time, she finally names her category: "Sources of heat and energy," she intones in her little 7-year-old voice. And I bust up. And she laughs. And there we are laughing and swinging under a dark-blue gradient sky, and I look up and see one bright, clear, bluish star--a planet, I think--right overhead. And we swing and sing blah blahs into the night. And never once do I include "frustrating job" in my categories.
Friday, September 26, 2008
Integrity
Reading the newspaper today, I came across this statement about White House negotiations on the bailout deal: "... said people from both parties who were briefed on the exchange. They spoke on condition of anonymity because the session was private."
Recently I read a similar statement, saying that a source wouldn't reveal his or her name because he or she was "not authorized to speak publicly."
These sort of things are all over in the news. We get a fair amount of news from anonymous sources. Journalists debate the use of anonymous sources, but their concerns center around credibility and reliability.
To me, this practice raises bigger questions about integrity. What does it do to our society to have people in powerful government positions compromising their integrity: revealing things that were presumed to be private, speaking when they are not authorized to speak, etc.? And then their breach of integrity is broadcast in the news when we report the information they shared and we explain why we can't quote them. Now everyone knows that there is someone in this realm of government who is not entirely trustworthy--in the truest sense of that word. They are not worthy of the trust placed in them. How does that affect our society's trust in government? How does it affect our children, to whom we try to teach integrity? How does it affect the behavior of society at large? If people in those sorts of positions are violating trust, maybe it's not that big of a deal. What is the ripple effect of a simple breach of confidence on the moral fabric of our society?
On the flip side of this, the same story included an AP photo of those who were in that White House meeting (see link). As I looked at the picture, I noted the coffee/tea cups in front of the various people sitting there at the table and I thought about all those people drinking their coffee/tea while they talked. But then I noticed that the cup in front of Harry Reid looked different. Look closely. It's upside down. There's our Mormon in high places--holding true to the principles of his belief. Very cool.
Recently I read a similar statement, saying that a source wouldn't reveal his or her name because he or she was "not authorized to speak publicly."
These sort of things are all over in the news. We get a fair amount of news from anonymous sources. Journalists debate the use of anonymous sources, but their concerns center around credibility and reliability.
To me, this practice raises bigger questions about integrity. What does it do to our society to have people in powerful government positions compromising their integrity: revealing things that were presumed to be private, speaking when they are not authorized to speak, etc.? And then their breach of integrity is broadcast in the news when we report the information they shared and we explain why we can't quote them. Now everyone knows that there is someone in this realm of government who is not entirely trustworthy--in the truest sense of that word. They are not worthy of the trust placed in them. How does that affect our society's trust in government? How does it affect our children, to whom we try to teach integrity? How does it affect the behavior of society at large? If people in those sorts of positions are violating trust, maybe it's not that big of a deal. What is the ripple effect of a simple breach of confidence on the moral fabric of our society?
On the flip side of this, the same story included an AP photo of those who were in that White House meeting (see link). As I looked at the picture, I noted the coffee/tea cups in front of the various people sitting there at the table and I thought about all those people drinking their coffee/tea while they talked. But then I noticed that the cup in front of Harry Reid looked different. Look closely. It's upside down. There's our Mormon in high places--holding true to the principles of his belief. Very cool.
Friday, August 01, 2008
A Son of God
Imagine Moses on a tall mountain, a staff in his hand and the wind whipping his robes around him. Heavenly Father appears and faces Moses. “Behold,” he begins, “I am the Lord God Almighty, and Endless is my name” (Moses 1:3).
Think of that. Think of Moses, a shepherd, standing before God, feeling his all-encompassing presence, witnessing his unsurpassed glory, and hearing him declare himself as “Almighty” and “Endless.” Almighty: He has all power--unsurpassed strength and capability. Endless: His being, his knowledge, his capacity, his love--he is without end in every way.
And then think of God--the ruler of the universe--saying to Moses what he said next: “And, behold, thou art my son” (Moses 1:4).
Wow. The son of God. Not just an old shepherd, but the offspring of the creator of all things. The child of the heavenly King. The heir of boundless dominions. What a humbling and yet exalting moment that must have been for Moses. To think that this amazing being with such incredible power was Moses’ Father. To think that Moses, an imperfect human, had the capacity to develop into a divine king like his Father.
Were God to appear to each one of us, he would likely say the same thing: “I am God, and you are my child.” And the same truths would apply: we are loved by the most awesome being in the universe, and we have the potential to be like him. We--each of us human beings on this earth--are amazing creatures. We are princes and princesses, children of an all-powerful King. What powerful knowledge that is.
After God had finished talking to Moses in the mountain, he left and Moses fell to the earth. He lacked strength to even stand, and he realized the extent of God’s power and glory when it was gone from him. And then someone else visited Moses. God’s polar opposite, Satan, appeared on the scene.
“Moses, son of man,” said Satan, “worship me” (Moses 1:12).
Son of man? Satan called Moses a son of man? But God just told Moses he was God’s son. When Satan visited Moses, he knew the power of the knowledge God had just given him, and he didn’t want Moses to have that power. So he told Moses he was the son of man. It was as if he were saying, “Moses, don’t listen to that rubbish. You cannot be a son of God. Look at yourself. You’re weak. You’re small. You are nothing. You’re a shepherd, for heaven’s sake! Son of God? Ha! You can’t even stand up.”
Does Satan ever say that to you? Does he ever whisper in your ears that you are not important? Does he tell you that you are not like God? When you hear those subtle messages creeping into your heart and mind, when you feel you are unworthy of God’s love, when you think you cannot do what God has asked you to do, remember: Satan is a liar. And he is telling you these lies because he wants to destroy you.
Like Moses, when we are faced with such devilish messages, we need to stand tall and boldly declare, “Who art thou? For behold, I am a son [or daughter] of God” (Moses 1:13). And like Moses, we need to call on the Son of God for strength (Moses 1:21). For he will help us. For he is our brother, and he has conquered Satan before and he will do it again--every time we ask him to.
Think of that. Think of Moses, a shepherd, standing before God, feeling his all-encompassing presence, witnessing his unsurpassed glory, and hearing him declare himself as “Almighty” and “Endless.” Almighty: He has all power--unsurpassed strength and capability. Endless: His being, his knowledge, his capacity, his love--he is without end in every way.
And then think of God--the ruler of the universe--saying to Moses what he said next: “And, behold, thou art my son” (Moses 1:4).
Wow. The son of God. Not just an old shepherd, but the offspring of the creator of all things. The child of the heavenly King. The heir of boundless dominions. What a humbling and yet exalting moment that must have been for Moses. To think that this amazing being with such incredible power was Moses’ Father. To think that Moses, an imperfect human, had the capacity to develop into a divine king like his Father.
Were God to appear to each one of us, he would likely say the same thing: “I am God, and you are my child.” And the same truths would apply: we are loved by the most awesome being in the universe, and we have the potential to be like him. We--each of us human beings on this earth--are amazing creatures. We are princes and princesses, children of an all-powerful King. What powerful knowledge that is.
After God had finished talking to Moses in the mountain, he left and Moses fell to the earth. He lacked strength to even stand, and he realized the extent of God’s power and glory when it was gone from him. And then someone else visited Moses. God’s polar opposite, Satan, appeared on the scene.
“Moses, son of man,” said Satan, “worship me” (Moses 1:12).
Son of man? Satan called Moses a son of man? But God just told Moses he was God’s son. When Satan visited Moses, he knew the power of the knowledge God had just given him, and he didn’t want Moses to have that power. So he told Moses he was the son of man. It was as if he were saying, “Moses, don’t listen to that rubbish. You cannot be a son of God. Look at yourself. You’re weak. You’re small. You are nothing. You’re a shepherd, for heaven’s sake! Son of God? Ha! You can’t even stand up.”
Does Satan ever say that to you? Does he ever whisper in your ears that you are not important? Does he tell you that you are not like God? When you hear those subtle messages creeping into your heart and mind, when you feel you are unworthy of God’s love, when you think you cannot do what God has asked you to do, remember: Satan is a liar. And he is telling you these lies because he wants to destroy you.
Like Moses, when we are faced with such devilish messages, we need to stand tall and boldly declare, “Who art thou? For behold, I am a son [or daughter] of God” (Moses 1:13). And like Moses, we need to call on the Son of God for strength (Moses 1:21). For he will help us. For he is our brother, and he has conquered Satan before and he will do it again--every time we ask him to.
Thursday, May 22, 2008
She's Gone...
So this evening, I pull into the driveway and see my neighbor and two of his friends on his porch with guitars. These are good kids (two are in my deacons quorum), but I didn't know they were musical. So I pop over to chat.
They're 13-year-old macho guys, so of course they get all awkward about it when I walk up. But after a minute, they loosen up. They call themselves Crevice ("That was Nate's idea," says Diggy), and they've got their first song on YouTube. They are now working on their second song, "Waiting for You."
This one here is called "She's Gone." My favorite lines:
"From the first day that I saw you,
I thought we would click,
but I know I was wrong,
cuz now we are split."
"It's to late,
she's already gone
that's why we
are playing this song."
Actually there are some fun lyrics here. And their second song has some pretty good words too. I'm impressed that they came up with the words and music all by themselves. Very cool.
But mostly as I'm standing in the neighbor's front yard and listening to three budding musicians, I'm thinking, "These guys are 13! Where do they get all this stuff about 'why did you leave me' and 'now there's no sun to brighten my day'?!?" Although thinking about it more now, I remember being 13 and having some big crushes on girls who didn't return my fond feelings... and my crushes got crushed... and I wrote sappy things in my journal...
Anyway, fun kids. From left to right, they are Diggy, Brian (my neighbor), and Nate (also in my ward). My new favorite band.
Monday, April 14, 2008
Therapy Therapy
As we drove across the barren wasteland of Nevada (on our way to the green hills of the Bay Area) on Saturday, I looked back at Caroline sitting in her car seat and thought I'd try to enliven her ride a little. So at the next stop, we switched drivers and I moved to the back seat and sat beside her.
I have a goal to spend 30 minutes a week doing therapy with Caroline--stretching her arms, legs, feet, etc.; moving her around to help her muscles, etc. develop a bit. I'm not sure if that goal is admirable or pitiful. It's a good thing to do therapy with my daughter. But it's pitiful that I have to set a goal to spend 30 minutes a week doing it. I should be setting a goal to do it 30 minutes a day... but for now, 30 minutes a week is an improvement from where I have been, so we're going there first. Later we may increase that.
Anyway, so I sat beside Caroline and I started moving her arms up and down. She loves this. You lift one arm, then while lowering that arm, you lift the other. When you start doing it really fast, she giggles. So I worked her arms a bit--up and down, in and out to touch her chest. Work her forearm muscles a bit. After stretching various muscles, I looked at the clock. My work thus far had taken all of four minutes. How was I going to sustain this activity for 30 minutes?
But I persisted. I moved to her feet. Her ankle/calf muscles (whatever muscles control the angle of your foot) are really tight. So I would slowly bend her foot up and down, up and down. Then move her whole leg in a kicking motion. Then both legs in the scissor kick. The other foot and ankle. Bend knees up to her chest and out. Kick fast, kick slow. Stretch and stretch. More arm work--and hands. Her hands tend to twist down and out a bit; they do not easily twist to face each other (as if you were to clap). So I twist her hands and forearms and hold them there. Move her arms around. Up and down. In and out. Stretch. Stretch. Stretch.
Gradually, I began to fill the time. And as I did so, a surprising thing happened. Feelings of love and connection with Caroline began to grow and deepen. As I held her hands and arms and feet and legs and moved her limbs and massaged her muscles and talked to her and made funny noises to her, I felt greater caring and concern for this little child. The very personal service and physical connection and focused attention were, well, therapeutic for me.
I had done this sort of thing with Caroline before, but other times my attention was more distracted. A week or so ago I worked her muscles while I watched general conference. Another time I remember doing it during a family gathering. But this time we were driving across Nevada. Lizzy was into a book and Christine was two rows away in the front of the van. There was nothing--absolutely nothing--to divert my attention from Caroline. So she became my complete focus. And the movements and exercises we did became less of a task and more of a shared activity, more of a game, more of an expression of love.
I recall some time ago hearing a report of research that showed that parents who enjoy their time with their children are parents who focus on the child, who don't try to do too many things at once. When we are with our children when we are with them--when we are intellectually and emotionally focused on them--we find greater satisfaction in our relationship than when we are distracted or when we are attempting to get something else done at the same time. Multitasking is not necessarily always a good thing.
Granted, we can't devote our full attention to our children all the time or we'd never get anything done. But this experience with Caroline made me think that I need to devote more time to my children. I need to find more time when all I do is focus on my child. Whether it's doing therapy or playing Legos or reading a book or riding a bike or singing a song. And when I'm doing those things, I need to not focus on finishing the book (as I do often with bedtime stories) or building the Lego car. I need to focus on my daughter. I need to have more time when my child is the sole object of my attention. And, for that matter, I need to have more time when my wife is the sole object of my attention, when all I'm doing is seeking to meet her needs and make her happy and enjoy her company.
Such attention may not be more efficient, but I do believe it will be more enjoyable.
On a lighter note...
Yesterday the cousins who are here went on a walk. Caroline was happy outside and fussy in, so we took advantage of the great California weather to stroll around the block. Emma (the oldest of the four girls) decided we would play "choosers" as we walk. In the game of "choosers" you take turns choosing how we will walk. We took big steps, we took little steps, we kicked as we walked, we walked like monsters, we pretended to jump rope, we ran, we galloped, etc. And every three turns we stopped to take a water break. It was great fun. And when Gracie chose skipping as the mode of walking, Lizzy declared enthusiastically, "Oh, good. That's one of my talents!" And off she went skipping with her cousins. The image of those three adorable girls skipping down the street in front of me toward the sun--delighted with the weather and their friendship and the act of skipping--sticks in my head still.
I have a goal to spend 30 minutes a week doing therapy with Caroline--stretching her arms, legs, feet, etc.; moving her around to help her muscles, etc. develop a bit. I'm not sure if that goal is admirable or pitiful. It's a good thing to do therapy with my daughter. But it's pitiful that I have to set a goal to spend 30 minutes a week doing it. I should be setting a goal to do it 30 minutes a day... but for now, 30 minutes a week is an improvement from where I have been, so we're going there first. Later we may increase that.
Anyway, so I sat beside Caroline and I started moving her arms up and down. She loves this. You lift one arm, then while lowering that arm, you lift the other. When you start doing it really fast, she giggles. So I worked her arms a bit--up and down, in and out to touch her chest. Work her forearm muscles a bit. After stretching various muscles, I looked at the clock. My work thus far had taken all of four minutes. How was I going to sustain this activity for 30 minutes?
But I persisted. I moved to her feet. Her ankle/calf muscles (whatever muscles control the angle of your foot) are really tight. So I would slowly bend her foot up and down, up and down. Then move her whole leg in a kicking motion. Then both legs in the scissor kick. The other foot and ankle. Bend knees up to her chest and out. Kick fast, kick slow. Stretch and stretch. More arm work--and hands. Her hands tend to twist down and out a bit; they do not easily twist to face each other (as if you were to clap). So I twist her hands and forearms and hold them there. Move her arms around. Up and down. In and out. Stretch. Stretch. Stretch.
Gradually, I began to fill the time. And as I did so, a surprising thing happened. Feelings of love and connection with Caroline began to grow and deepen. As I held her hands and arms and feet and legs and moved her limbs and massaged her muscles and talked to her and made funny noises to her, I felt greater caring and concern for this little child. The very personal service and physical connection and focused attention were, well, therapeutic for me.
I had done this sort of thing with Caroline before, but other times my attention was more distracted. A week or so ago I worked her muscles while I watched general conference. Another time I remember doing it during a family gathering. But this time we were driving across Nevada. Lizzy was into a book and Christine was two rows away in the front of the van. There was nothing--absolutely nothing--to divert my attention from Caroline. So she became my complete focus. And the movements and exercises we did became less of a task and more of a shared activity, more of a game, more of an expression of love.
I recall some time ago hearing a report of research that showed that parents who enjoy their time with their children are parents who focus on the child, who don't try to do too many things at once. When we are with our children when we are with them--when we are intellectually and emotionally focused on them--we find greater satisfaction in our relationship than when we are distracted or when we are attempting to get something else done at the same time. Multitasking is not necessarily always a good thing.
Granted, we can't devote our full attention to our children all the time or we'd never get anything done. But this experience with Caroline made me think that I need to devote more time to my children. I need to find more time when all I do is focus on my child. Whether it's doing therapy or playing Legos or reading a book or riding a bike or singing a song. And when I'm doing those things, I need to not focus on finishing the book (as I do often with bedtime stories) or building the Lego car. I need to focus on my daughter. I need to have more time when my child is the sole object of my attention. And, for that matter, I need to have more time when my wife is the sole object of my attention, when all I'm doing is seeking to meet her needs and make her happy and enjoy her company.
Such attention may not be more efficient, but I do believe it will be more enjoyable.
On a lighter note...
Yesterday the cousins who are here went on a walk. Caroline was happy outside and fussy in, so we took advantage of the great California weather to stroll around the block. Emma (the oldest of the four girls) decided we would play "choosers" as we walk. In the game of "choosers" you take turns choosing how we will walk. We took big steps, we took little steps, we kicked as we walked, we walked like monsters, we pretended to jump rope, we ran, we galloped, etc. And every three turns we stopped to take a water break. It was great fun. And when Gracie chose skipping as the mode of walking, Lizzy declared enthusiastically, "Oh, good. That's one of my talents!" And off she went skipping with her cousins. The image of those three adorable girls skipping down the street in front of me toward the sun--delighted with the weather and their friendship and the act of skipping--sticks in my head still.
Tuesday, April 08, 2008
Funny Statements
Lizzy (and the Scouts) have said several funny things in the last week or so... I've been saving them up...
Loafing and Driving
Tonight Lizzy and I listened to a Hank the Cowdog book while we drove around in the car (helping my brother move a piano). At one point in the story, Hank describes the lazy ranch cat, who loafs around all the time and who "likes to loaf above everything except himself." Lizzy laughed and said, "The cat can't loaf above himself!"
Hank's trusty (or, actually, chicken-livered) deputy is a small dog named Drover. After we finished the story, Lizzy was telling Christine about it and in reference to Drover, she said, "His name is kind of like 'driver'--only "did driver.'"
What do you know?
Last night at dinner, Lizzy got frustrated with me (for what, I can't remember) and said, "Don't you know anything?!"
"I know lots of things," I responded. "Go ahead, ask me something. Anything."
She thought that was funny (whew--frustration averted), and she started asking questions.
"What's 100 divided by six?"
"16 and a little more than a half... two-thirds, actually. 16 and two-thirds."
"What's zero divided by 1,000?"
"Zero."
"What's one divided by 20?"
".05."
"What's a thousand gazillion billion divided by 18, times 12, plus 22?"
"Um... you got me."
A New Take on Polygamy
Tonight after reading scriptures, Lizzy said, "Back in the Old Testament when it was ok to have more than one wife, it would have been funny if one man had two wives and one woman had two husbands and then that man and that woman decided to get together. That would be a lot of parents!"
Triumphant Anthems
Last week a neighbor boy and Lizzy were playing in the back yard together. They found some sticks to use as swords and began playing war. And any good war game has music. So Lizzy's version of war mostly consisted of her dancing around the yard, waving her sword, and singing the war song she made up as they played: "Our swords crash together, our victims cry for mercy."
It had a rather catchy tune, so I decided to sing along. "Our swords crash together--"
"No, no!" Lizzy interrupted. "That's not right. It's more triumphant. Like this: Our swords crash together..." (Sung with gusto and a dramatic shaking of the head... very triumphant and grand, I must say... this was the conquering hero on a white steed singing the tale of her victory.)
Incidentally, the neighbor boy was not to be outdone. When I commented on Lizzy's song, he told me that he had a war song, too. His went like this--think the heavy marching of endless columns of orcs going into battle: "Crash, clang, bam, the battle weapons bang together, bash, boom, clash." A very male sort of song.
Wilderness Survival, According to 12-Year-Olds
A week ago for Scouts we discussed survival skills. When the Scoutmaster asked what four things you need to survive, one of the Scouts quickly raised his hand and gave the answer: "Food, water, love, and shelter."
In response to the laughter from the Scoutmaster and me, other boys chimed in in his defense: "Love is essential. It's been scientifically proven that without love, you'll die."
So next time you go into the wilderness, be sure to pack a teddy bear along with your water purification tablets. (Incidentally, the four things you actually need surprised me. Here they are, in order of priority: warmth, water, sleep, and food. I would not have thought sleep would be on that list.)
In the discussion about water, the Scoutmaster asked what you should do if you run out of water and you're not near civilization. Our experienced campers replied: "Panic."
And when the Scoutmaster asked what you should do if you are lost and you see a helicopter looking for you and you don't have a mirror, someone suggested, "Throw a rock."
Loafing and Driving
Tonight Lizzy and I listened to a Hank the Cowdog book while we drove around in the car (helping my brother move a piano). At one point in the story, Hank describes the lazy ranch cat, who loafs around all the time and who "likes to loaf above everything except himself." Lizzy laughed and said, "The cat can't loaf above himself!"
Hank's trusty (or, actually, chicken-livered) deputy is a small dog named Drover. After we finished the story, Lizzy was telling Christine about it and in reference to Drover, she said, "His name is kind of like 'driver'--only "did driver.'"
What do you know?
Last night at dinner, Lizzy got frustrated with me (for what, I can't remember) and said, "Don't you know anything?!"
"I know lots of things," I responded. "Go ahead, ask me something. Anything."
She thought that was funny (whew--frustration averted), and she started asking questions.
"What's 100 divided by six?"
"16 and a little more than a half... two-thirds, actually. 16 and two-thirds."
"What's zero divided by 1,000?"
"Zero."
"What's one divided by 20?"
".05."
"What's a thousand gazillion billion divided by 18, times 12, plus 22?"
"Um... you got me."
A New Take on Polygamy
Tonight after reading scriptures, Lizzy said, "Back in the Old Testament when it was ok to have more than one wife, it would have been funny if one man had two wives and one woman had two husbands and then that man and that woman decided to get together. That would be a lot of parents!"
Triumphant Anthems
Last week a neighbor boy and Lizzy were playing in the back yard together. They found some sticks to use as swords and began playing war. And any good war game has music. So Lizzy's version of war mostly consisted of her dancing around the yard, waving her sword, and singing the war song she made up as they played: "Our swords crash together, our victims cry for mercy."
It had a rather catchy tune, so I decided to sing along. "Our swords crash together--"
"No, no!" Lizzy interrupted. "That's not right. It's more triumphant. Like this: Our swords crash together..." (Sung with gusto and a dramatic shaking of the head... very triumphant and grand, I must say... this was the conquering hero on a white steed singing the tale of her victory.)
Incidentally, the neighbor boy was not to be outdone. When I commented on Lizzy's song, he told me that he had a war song, too. His went like this--think the heavy marching of endless columns of orcs going into battle: "Crash, clang, bam, the battle weapons bang together, bash, boom, clash." A very male sort of song.
Wilderness Survival, According to 12-Year-Olds
A week ago for Scouts we discussed survival skills. When the Scoutmaster asked what four things you need to survive, one of the Scouts quickly raised his hand and gave the answer: "Food, water, love, and shelter."
In response to the laughter from the Scoutmaster and me, other boys chimed in in his defense: "Love is essential. It's been scientifically proven that without love, you'll die."
So next time you go into the wilderness, be sure to pack a teddy bear along with your water purification tablets. (Incidentally, the four things you actually need surprised me. Here they are, in order of priority: warmth, water, sleep, and food. I would not have thought sleep would be on that list.)
In the discussion about water, the Scoutmaster asked what you should do if you run out of water and you're not near civilization. Our experienced campers replied: "Panic."
And when the Scoutmaster asked what you should do if you are lost and you see a helicopter looking for you and you don't have a mirror, someone suggested, "Throw a rock."
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Through Mists of Darkness
[It was my turn to write the introductory message for our church congregation's newsletter this month, and this is what I came up with. Thought I'd share...]
In a remote valley near the Red Sea thousands of years ago, a group of people were preparing for a long trip. They knew the journey would be filled with uncertainty and challenges. They would travel into a wilderness, leaving the comforts and security of civilization far behind. And what is more, they didn't exactly know the way, nor did they know where their ultimate destination was—just that it was a land of promise.
In the midst of this uncertainty, the patriarch of the family, Lehi, had a dream. In this dream he saw a tree with fruit that was "desirable to make one happy" (1 Ne. 8:10). Many people wanted to eat the tree's fruit, and fortunately, the way to the tree had a clearly marked path with a helpful handrail.
With a path and a handrail, it should have been easy to get to the tree, but it wasn't. A thick mist of darkness covered the path, and in the middle of that darkness, travel became confusing. The people could no longer see the tree, and they probably couldn't even see the path they were walking on. In such darkness, if travelers stepped off the path, they may not have noticed at first that the ground was a little different. They may have thought they were continuing on course when they were actually becoming lost.
The only way to stay on course through the darkness would have been to hold fast to the rod of iron. Some people likely held to the rod for a time and then began to doubt that the rod was going in the right direction. Their own senses may have led them to think they should veer to the right, or they may have felt that the rod was veering too much to the left. So they let go. Others may have held to the rod for a long time. As they became used to the feel of the path and of the rod, they may have become confident. After so long following and holding, surely they knew the path and the rod well enough to let go for a minute. Then two minutes. Then half an hour. Soon they would have stumbled on an unexpected rock, and they would have reached for the rod to discover they were nowhere near it. Only those who held continually to the rod made it through this difficult, confusing time of darkness.
For Lehi's family, the next few years after the dream must have been much like walking through that mist of darkness. Most of the travelers did not know the way through the wilderness; they could see neither their destination nor the path. Instead, they had to trust in the prophet and in a compass given them by God. But in the face of hunger or sickness or fatigue or desert sandstorms, that trust may not have been so easy.
Likewise, we all face times when the way may not be clear to us. We may become frustrated or confused. We may not be able to remember clearly where we are going or why we are going there. Fortunately, like those in Lehi's dream, we have a rod of iron. As we hold firmly, and continually, to that rod—as we study the scriptures faithfully—we will find our way through difficulties and we will stay on course toward our ultimate destination. As your bishopric, we testify that the rod of iron will lead you in the right direction and that rich rewards await those who faithfully travel to the end of the path. As you make the scriptures your lifeline and then hold fast, you will be strengthened against temptations and trials and evil. You can make it through the darkness, and like the faithful travelers in Lehi's dream, you will come forth and fall down before the tree and partake of the blessings of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
May you be strengthened to hold firmly to the rod and may you find peace and hope and joy as you do so.
In a remote valley near the Red Sea thousands of years ago, a group of people were preparing for a long trip. They knew the journey would be filled with uncertainty and challenges. They would travel into a wilderness, leaving the comforts and security of civilization far behind. And what is more, they didn't exactly know the way, nor did they know where their ultimate destination was—just that it was a land of promise.
In the midst of this uncertainty, the patriarch of the family, Lehi, had a dream. In this dream he saw a tree with fruit that was "desirable to make one happy" (1 Ne. 8:10). Many people wanted to eat the tree's fruit, and fortunately, the way to the tree had a clearly marked path with a helpful handrail.
With a path and a handrail, it should have been easy to get to the tree, but it wasn't. A thick mist of darkness covered the path, and in the middle of that darkness, travel became confusing. The people could no longer see the tree, and they probably couldn't even see the path they were walking on. In such darkness, if travelers stepped off the path, they may not have noticed at first that the ground was a little different. They may have thought they were continuing on course when they were actually becoming lost.
The only way to stay on course through the darkness would have been to hold fast to the rod of iron. Some people likely held to the rod for a time and then began to doubt that the rod was going in the right direction. Their own senses may have led them to think they should veer to the right, or they may have felt that the rod was veering too much to the left. So they let go. Others may have held to the rod for a long time. As they became used to the feel of the path and of the rod, they may have become confident. After so long following and holding, surely they knew the path and the rod well enough to let go for a minute. Then two minutes. Then half an hour. Soon they would have stumbled on an unexpected rock, and they would have reached for the rod to discover they were nowhere near it. Only those who held continually to the rod made it through this difficult, confusing time of darkness.
For Lehi's family, the next few years after the dream must have been much like walking through that mist of darkness. Most of the travelers did not know the way through the wilderness; they could see neither their destination nor the path. Instead, they had to trust in the prophet and in a compass given them by God. But in the face of hunger or sickness or fatigue or desert sandstorms, that trust may not have been so easy.
Likewise, we all face times when the way may not be clear to us. We may become frustrated or confused. We may not be able to remember clearly where we are going or why we are going there. Fortunately, like those in Lehi's dream, we have a rod of iron. As we hold firmly, and continually, to that rod—as we study the scriptures faithfully—we will find our way through difficulties and we will stay on course toward our ultimate destination. As your bishopric, we testify that the rod of iron will lead you in the right direction and that rich rewards await those who faithfully travel to the end of the path. As you make the scriptures your lifeline and then hold fast, you will be strengthened against temptations and trials and evil. You can make it through the darkness, and like the faithful travelers in Lehi's dream, you will come forth and fall down before the tree and partake of the blessings of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
May you be strengthened to hold firmly to the rod and may you find peace and hope and joy as you do so.
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